AFFAIRS: The Re-connection Journey

Introductory Training to
Encounter-centered Couples Therapy (EcCT) and its use to assist couples for Re-Pairing after an Affair

Hedy Schleifer is excited to present a new clinical training under the auspices of her recently established Tikkun Learning Center. In the USA, this training provides 21 CEUs.

Watch this short video from the “AFFAIRS: A Step-by-Step Process for Reconnection” Video Program which will give you a sense of Encounter-centered Couples Therapy and an effective way to guide couples in healing from an affair.

The training will answer the three questions that are critical for work with couples that have undergone the trauma of an affair:

  • In the aftermath of an affair, how do you help couples restore and strengthen their relational bond?
  • How do you assist them to be free of the trap of the “perpetrator” and “victim” roles, and enable them to make authentic amends?
  • How do you guide them to script a new scenario for their future life together?

To achieve these goals of earnest re-pair after a distressing rupture, the therapist must create a contradiction. The therapist must establish a relational and emotional ambiance in which both the mutual expression and acceptance of deep regret as well as genuine forgiveness can take place.

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Join Hedy Schleifer for a three-day experience, during which she will take you on an adventure to discover a novel and effective way to guide couples into the journey of healing and re-connection after an affair.

“Hedy’s incorporation of neuroscience, mindfulness, somatic experience, only the essential, eternal time and the language of abundance (to name just a few) is brilliant, and a must for any therapist who wants to work with couples, or for any couple who wants the relationship of their dreams”. – Leslie Bartlett, L.C.P.C., Imago Therapist from Brunswick, ME

Through lectures, in vivo demonstrations with couples, group discussion and Q&A sessions, Hedy will prepare you to leave with an understanding of how EcCT provides you with new tools, increased expertise, enhanced skills, and a clear vision of how to achieve an even more relaxed and responsive therapeutic stance with your couples, including when they come in the aftermath of an affair.

Hedy will introduce you to the guiding principles of EcCT, a pragmatic new approach to Couples Therapy. She will initiate you to the inspiring Amends Journey. And as you travel the journey, you will discover an original and effective approach to helping couples heal from both the recent wounds caused by the affair, and the old wounds imported into the relationship from childhood adaptations.

She will also show video clips of a new DVD of a live two-day intensive session with a couple, which will take you through every stage and step of their Amends Journey after an affair.

Spending 3 days with Hedy creates an extraordinary experience; you will encounter professional and personal transformation as she delivers this practical, effective, and spiritually and intellectually stimulating immersion in EcCT and its application to healing after an affair.

The training was a transformative experience for me personally and professionally. The didactic presentation was clear, accessible and filled with warmth and humor. The live demonstrations opened my heart and mind to new dimensions of what is possible for couples and the potential for bringing more kindness and compassion into our world. – Nicolee McMahon, MFT from San Diego, CA

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EcCT includes step-by-step processes for:

  • Assisting couples develop deep listening skills and for expanding each partner’s capacity to visit the other and get to know the other’s reality.
  • Helping partners own their individual contribution by what they did or didn’t do in the lead-up to the affair, while also discovering previously ignored aspects of each other’s inner emotional landscape.
  • Guiding each partner back to early wounds and survival defenses in order to create mutual understanding and new appreciation of each one’s individual struggles.
  • Reviewing the relationship from this new vantage point and scripting a new scenario for the future in which each partner can champion and cherish the other.
  • Allowing partners to attune to each other and achieve an emotional as well as spiritual connection based on empathic resonance.

During this workshop you will learn how EcCT:

  1. Concentrates on couples’ inherent strengths rather than on their problems, and since it focuses on restoring couples’ original connection, it succeeds, with such difficult challenges, as recovery from relational exits.
  2. Allows you to guide your couples to develop skills that go beyond the art of dialoguing, skills that deepen the whole body, mind and spiritual attunement, and create long lasting, safe authentic connection, as well as profound relational transformation.
  3. Enables you and your couples to experience a relational model that entrusts and empowers partners to create deep emotional and intellectual connections. You will also learn how EcCT integrates ancient wisdom and cutting edge neuroscience, such as memory reconsolidation therapy, and will experience a cohesive and holistic model of couples therapy.

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