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The three-day Encounter-centered Couples Therapy training will include the following:

  • The mapping of the basic premise of the Relational Paradigm as a ground of being for couples therapy.
  • The exploration of the theoretical, clinical and philosophical implications of welcoming couples into their deepest intimacies.
  • The study of the role of the couples therapist, and his/her use of self in the therapeutic process.
  • The essential skills and competences of the couples therapist for successfully guiding  couples to discover, welcome and embrace full aliveness in connection.
  • A skillful method to assist couples in learning the language of the “other,” thus becoming bi-lingual in their relationship.
  • A creative process to work with couples to promote the expression of emotional intimacy verbally, physically as well as sexually.
  • The paradigm shift of locating the process of change and transformation in the “space between” the couple.
  • The study of the Relational Neuro-Biology findings around establishing limbic resonance, limbic regulation and limbic revision between partners.
  • The exploration of a couples therapy model that is centered on the meaning and sacredness of the “encounter.”


The Daily Agenda of the three-day training will include:

DAY 1:

  • The four levels of learning theory
  • Introduction and overview of the Encounter-centered Couples Therapy model
  • Exploration of the role in couples therapy of the “three invisible connectors”: the Space, the Bridge and the Encounter
  • The step by step pragmatic therapeutic structures to introduce the relational paradigm to couples
  • The distinction between the “survival dance” and the dance of connection
  • The Role of Fun, Laughter and Play in the work with couples
  • In Vivo demonstrations with couples
  • Video clips to reinforce the learnings


  • Sources and Pillars: the theoretical and philosophical underpinnings of the Encounter-centered Couples Therapy model: The philosophy of Martin Buber, Imago Relationship Theory, Relational Neuro-Biology and Appreciative Inquiry, the organizational development model
  • Tracking the intergenerational transmission of trauma in intimate connections
  • The generative metaphor of the “neighborhoods” in the world of each partner and the introduction of the “Neighborhood of Childhood”
  • In Vivo demonstrations with couples
  • Video clips to reinforce the learnings


  • In depth exploration of the developmental stages and the meaning of the “survival knot” in couples relationships
  • Exploration of the generative metaphor of the “toughest neighborhood” in couples relationships
  • Rituals of Completion: the Gratitude Ritual, the Appreciation Ritual, and the Primary Languages of Love Ritual
  • In Vivo demonstrations with couples
  • Video clips to reinforce the learnings
  • Summary lecture and take-home learnings from the three-day training